Morning,
Sigh. One of the biggest challenges some people have is refusing to give others power over them to hurt them emotionally.
Think about it. If you’re overweight, have you ever been told, you’re so fat, you’re hopeless, you’ll never succeed, why do you even try?
Well? Hurtful, isn’t it? Derailing, right?
The thing is, you have to remember that you cannot control what other people say….but you can control how you choose to react.
There was a very interesting thread over at 3FC today about such things. I posted the following response:
….. Can I relate to allowing people to possess power over you. It’s a horrible thing.
I was able to stop the pain by internalizing the following:
1.) I am one of the awesome people on this planet. If the only thing “wrong” with me was my weight, I was ahead of 99.997% of everyone else! I am compassionate, I can empathize, I can take control when needed, I watch out for friends and family….in other words, my own personal qualities are beyond sterling.
2.) Given point 1, I need to evaluate the person who is trying to hurt my feelings. Are they on my level? Do they walk the walk regarding human decency, or are they just trying to exert power over me? In virtually every case, I realize that I’m much a better person….so I can then give myself permission to neutralize any emotional hurt from their words. They’re pathetic, I’m great. They don’t deserve the ability to impact my emotions….MORE….
I firmly believe that you must proactively internalize your true worth whenever you embark on a life-changing journey like weight loss, college degrees, etc.
There will always be people who want to drag you down to their level – refuse! Take back control, give yourself permission to ignore all the naysayers and rise to your own cherished abilities. The people who are important to you will applaud…and the rest of the world can go to heck.
Remember that. It’s your choice….choose wisely.
Barbara
ps – when you control your reactions, you’re one step closer to becoming one with the universe.